Is It Really Love If You’ve Only Been Dating Online & Never Met In Real Life?
According to an Expert.
Have you had the experience of being super excited for a friend who just shared that they're madly in love, until they tell you, "We finally get to meet in person next month!"
Can you truly be in love in online relationships, especially if you've never met in real life?
The most common response from friends is to feel concern. Meanwhile, love experts, therapists, and relationship coaches say that it's not possible and that the love is a fantasy - an illusion or a projection.
The good news is, loving someone can happen at any moment, even online, even if you've never met in person, and even if they are 10,000 miles away.
First things first, let's describe love.
This is critical because there are almost as many definitions for love as there are people. Defining love is a huge trap.
These often pop up in bathrooms, taped to a mirror. They're sweet reminders, but also so much more than that. They are profoundly true.
Love is not outside of you - you are love.
And to fully understand how love can exist between people who have never met, you must understand that love is within you.
Love is your lifeforce. It's why you're breathing. It's an undeniable source of your existence, even if you feel crappy, depressed, and as though the world is overflowing with insanity.
So, if we are love, then what does it mean when we proclaim that we love someone or something? What is truly going on when someone tells us that they love us?
What is truly happening is that the person with whom you're connecting - in their ability to hear and respond to you - reflects your own ability to love.
This may be something that happens often in your life but is rarely described in a way that's fully appreciated.
When you feel love, the person you're connecting with ignites you with an awareness of the love that already exists within you.
